Planning The Rehearsal Dinner: Part 1

This weekend, my FFIL and FMIL were in town on their way back from a long weekend on the Jersey Shore.  They made a pit-stop in the DC area so that our two families could get together to discuss the progress of the BIG DAY.  Our major topic of discussion: the rehearsal dinner.

It's pretty tricky planning for a rehearsal dinner when we've never been to one (!).  What do we want to include? What do we NOT want to include?  Should it be a sit down, formal dinner? Should everyone be able to make a toast if they want to?  Do we want music and dancing? AHHH!  Mere has been to 2 R-Dinners, and she said both were totally different.  One was massive (100+ people!), and all of them said something about the couple.  The other was much smaller and more intimate, and only the "designated" people gave toasts (side note to me: find out who said-designated people are!!).

I need to do some serious soul-searching (ok, I guess it's not really soul-searching) to figure out what I we want our R-Dinner to be like!  We do have an idea of where we'd like it to be held...that's a start, right?! ;)